Kiddismm....

"Don't act kiddish"

"You are a child"

"Grow up dude"

"You are so immature".....and many more.
I am sure most of us would have been at the receiving end of such comments, some as is and some on similar lines, of course I have....
Ironically, the same person who is seen as matured by one would be seen as immature by others. Now where does this stop ? and who takes a call on deciding one's level of maturity. We don't intend to give such rights to all, the freedom which we one can describe the "Me", Thanks to our Ego'sss....
As we chug the train of life, choice has to be made on :

• Are we daring enough to define, rather redefine the path our life has to take ?

• Are we sober enough to accept the "so called practical inabilities" which tend to control our life ?

It is not tough to note that most prefer the latter, but there still a handful of those who drudge along the unknown and see satisfaction in their actions.

Now relating the “way to lead life” to “maturity”, most who pass comments such are the ones who have are supposedly settled in their life (Ah..not financially which for me is never viable).

Personally, I have certain questions to be asked :

• Why is that longing for some one's time for ever mean kiddish ?

• Why is that expectation is always considered childish?

• Why is that feeling terrible for missing something which I would like to part of is termed as "not grown up"?

• Why is that longing for the innocence and sincerity, at age when you are professionals or parents referred to immature ?

Further, each of us would have come across someone from whom we feel, "Yes, you make this observation, I shall consider it, if not necessarily accepting it ". They tend to provoke a thought. They tend make you think..They tend to make you so many things.

Accepting that special person's thought does not mean I should consider other's opinion, Others…

• Who just don't have the courage to face life by insisting on what makes them happy?

• Who are not sincere to call out their unhappiness when someone/something does not live up to what they want, fearing other's thought about being branded as immature?

• Who are unwilling to accept the fact that expectation is a part of life and life is made more beautiful only when you take the privilege of expecting things from your "Loved one's ?

• Who are keen to accept life's practical limitations are the solution for every unaddressed problem?
For me, I don't want to live in a world, where human emotions and values take back seat. I am unwilling to be termed as kiddish, to those willing to give all kinds of reason's only they don’t know I don’t care. I am more than happy to accept the directions of my heart (which may be emotional), when compared to my mind(termed as sensible)
And finally I choose, unlike others where the reason for accepting anything is termed as being mature...
So, if someone terms you kiddish, don't just brush it aside, try to assimilate on who says and why ?
Why should be secondary, but Who determines the seriousness of thought, as that "Who" is more worried about you and needless to say "They Care"

Thanks to all, who termed me so, they enabled me to brush their thought aside.

Only some's thought stays and make me wonder on where I should grow up and outline my growth plans ala our economy...

Jewels passed by another....

These are collection of simple idioms passed across by another ' ' ,   I don't want to lose them through my daily chores, enjoy them...to be updated

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Live your life each day as you would climb a mountain
An occasional glance towards the summit keeps the goal in mind,
But many beautiful scenes are to be observed from each new vantage point... ! ! !
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Doing more than expected
To make another's life little more bearable
Without uttering a single complaint is called Compassion... ! ! !
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Follow effective action with quiet reflection.
From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action... ! ! !

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Never look at what we have lost.
Always look at what we are left with.
Key moments are seized powerfully with this attitude... ! ! !
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Present is the fruit of the past
Its also the seed for the future..! ! !
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Everything in this world can be seen as we wish to
Good or Bad; Simple or Complicated; Easy or Difficult
It’s not how things are; it’s about how we look up to them
And how we look up to them is all up to us...! ! !
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Be grateful to all the challenges we face
After each one was overcome
We become stronger and more able to meet those that were still to come
We actually grow thru all our challenges...! ! !
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The price of self-destiny is never cheap
And in certain situations it is unthinkable
But to achieve the marvelous
It is precisely the unthinkable that must be thought..! ! !
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No great performance ever came from holding back
Step out. Great life awaits you out there...! ! !
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When we act as though it is impossible to fail.
We will find favorable results in all that we do… ! ! !
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We cannot direct the wind.
But we can adjust our sails.
When we can’t change the circumstances,
We can change ourself… ! ! !
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When we affirm big, believe big and pray big,
And put faith into action,
BIG things do happen...! ! !
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Every moment, every issue, every situation,
And every concern has a positive side.
Find it and bring it to life… ! ! !
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The harder the knocks we go thru in life,
The more we learn and put them to use in future.
Do not be discouraged by failures and setbacks.
After all they are meant to make us more stronger… ! ! !
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Disappointments are like road humps.
They might slow down us a bit.
But we enjoy the smooth road afterwards.
Dont stay on the humps too long, just move on…! ! !
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Treat everyone with politeness.
Even those who(Naveena) are rude to U.
Not because they are not nice,
But because U(Beena) are nice… ! ! !
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It doesn't pay to get discouraged.
Keeping busy and making optimism a way of life,
Can restore faith in yourself… ! ! !
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Know the true value of time:
Snatch, seize, and enjoy every moment of it.
No idleness, no laziness, no procrastination;
Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today… ! ! !
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Anything we really want,
We can attain, if we really go after it… ! ! !
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We become as small as our controlling desires;
As great as our dominant aspirations
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We've got to love what we are doing.
If we love it, we can overcome any handicap or the soreness
Or all the aches and pains, and continue to play for a long, long time… ! ! !
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Face the past without regret.
Handle the present with confidence.
Prepare for the future without fear...! ! !
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In the moments of decision making the best thing we can do is the right thing.
The worst thing we can do is nothing… ! ! !
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If yesterday didn't end up the way U planned,
Just remember, today is created for U to start a new one… ! ! !
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If we all did the things we are capable of doing,
We would astound ourselves time and again… ! ! !
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Life gives us answers in three ways.
It says YES and gives what we want,
It says NO and gives us something better,
It says WAIT and gives us the best… ! ! !
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Real difficulties can be overcome;
It is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable… ! ! !
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As soon as we trust ourselves,
We will know how to live… ! ! !
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Some men give up their designs when they have almost reached the goal;
While others, on the contrary, obtain a victory by exerting, at the last moment,
More vigorous efforts than ever before.
That’s what creates world class champions… ! ! !
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Everything is always impossible before it works.
That’s what successful people are all about.
Doing what others have told them is impossible… ! ! !
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The way to get started towards success is,
To simply quit talking and begin doing.
When we complete doing, others will do the talking… ! ! !
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Day a year, 5th of September

Day a year, 5th of September

To recall our student life
To buy the stamp, pictured with Dr.Radhakrishnan
Not to dwell into our famed childhood schooled days, but
To spare a moment to recognize all our teachers
Those who are solely responsible, for shaping us
Irrespective of being complete strangers

Those teachers, who made us
Kneel when not completing homework's
Beat on knuckles in case of mis-spelt words
Stand up on bench, when murmuring during class
Call parents, to hand over low scoring report cards

The personalities below etched my life, career, during our days between 5-16 yrs

Kudos to Mary miss, for shaping my handwriting and teaching moral sciences
Kudos to PT master, for developing my sporting culture
Kudos to Uma miss, for supporting during my 3rd standard
Kudos to Chandrashekar for teaching me Hale Kannada
Kudos to Vishalakshi miss, Laksmi miss, Shankarappa sir for making me a Maths punter :)
Kudos Manjula miss, for helping in all admin works
Kudos to Meher madam, Kanmani miss for teaching classy english
Kudos to Kasturi, for making me learn bits and pieces of our national language
Kudos to Shakuntala, for introducing geography and history
Kudos to Aleem sir, for reaching me close to Algebra
Kudos to Faziya madam, for being the most sought after HM and bio teacher
Kudos to aaya, for being there whenever required
Kudos to Vijay sir, for making me worthless

There can be never bad intention in what a teacher may have done
Without them then, I am not what now
They remain forever in my thoughts
They take credit for my deeds
They reap satisfaction in their student's actions
They the, selfless creatures called Teachers

Happy Teacher's day my dear Teachers...!!!

Wedding at Tumkur rekindles a decade old event...

As I attend a wedding event at Tumkur (2011), of one my good old school friend, wandered my mind towards an incident where I turned out to be a heart breaker. Oh before you get into conclusions, let me enlighten you with the actual happening.

It was summer of 2001, I was basking glory of being part fabulous Engg college, the one and only UVCE. Those days begun with Jonty opening the college gate, and closing it as well, with no frills and grills in life, but hey some food for thought was waiting.

Our residence phone number was very popular, kind of fancy types. Buzzed did it once, A pleasant surprise, as I hold the receiver, my ear listens to a very familiar voice, something in which I would had bathed over a period of three years during my high school days. The same naughty feeling all teens go through.

The owner of the voice was my latest, sweet crush then (only crush), I knew her well, knew her sister (not what you are thinking), also knew her mother (OMG no no not again :) ). A lovely family from God's own country, home bound mom, carpenter dad, two beautiful daughters(one my classmate and the other my younger brother's), and a cute little son (into his early primary school) dotted those tiny spacious walls. I was at home between those walls, something am proud off.

Back on track, as my ears sensed the known voice, my mind started painting the beautiful face, a pretty one. Never in my wildest of dreams, I would have thought of what transpired later.

Without much ado, She needed a favor, now is the interesting piece. One of our common friend, guess what proposed to her and she is not keen on taking the relationship forward.

Not sure why she thought about me, to wriggle her out of this, but hey pls understand the other person has been my close associate for a good period of 6 years then. May be that convinced her to reach out to me. That call left me wondering, it did.

Being nice (at least pretending to be) is very dangerous. Never would one realize the aftermath of it, till it hits you hard. I felt a tremor then.

Back in college, amidst the divine atmosphere, wondering was I on what should be done?, two choices to make, each equally tough :

·         Should I get down the burden of confusion from one friend's life, in the process crushing a budding love tale?

·         Should I tie hands with my other friend, try my luck in blossoming the bud?

Oh it was tough choice to make, may be my priorities then helped to choose the path, for which am proud today and not fall for emotions.

Assured did I to the beautiful voice, that I shall handle this, met did I my close associate to understand his feelings, evaluated did I my next steps and facilitated did I a meeting between the two parties. Assuming responsibility to get her out of the house for the meeting, convincing Aunt, I felt a sense of serious responsibility.

The stage was set for Jonty, the moderator between two parties travelling on different boats. In my own style, apprised both, gave them their space to talk in private and waited 10 meters away from the action.

I was playing security for the next 10 mins, but my shoulder was leaning to provide support for the broken heart. A consensus reached, and I was successful in crushing the love bud, How cruel could I be? The sense of responsibility made me feel raise above all, escorted her to the nicey home and Thanked my friend for respecting me and my action.

Back to wedding at Tumkur, you should have guessed by now, it was of my associate whose heart was crushed by me a good decade ago. I was lost in my thoughts, Thanks to my mind for refreshing an interesting incident, which transpired among the three of us so far, till I decide to make it public today.

Now where is she..? The beautiful girl matured into a respectful lady, found her partner a good 6 years ago and is a proud homemaker now.

Nope, I am not a crusader of Love, neither am I protector of it, only believe that true love will always reciprocate, assumes but never sheds the responsibility of the souls towards their loved one’s and society around.

Emotions should never gain the upper hand, rather should always be the supporting hand, was the take away for me then.

As said  "Never take the help of words to show your anger, Never take the help of tears to pour your emotions"

Sorry for breaking your heart & standing on the other shore then. Now if I look back and on your wedding set in 2011, I feel proud to have done the right thing, albeit if I was so ruthless.

Wish you a very happy married life …..